Why our search for love leads us to ourselves
The human projection of love is flawed. And that is ironic because the human projection of love is "perfect". Love is supposed to be selfless, kind, non-discriminatory. Yet, it doesn't often feel that way. Love can feel heavy. Love ties you down to people, to places. Love brings pain and suffering and attachment. And that's where the divide actually arrives: our expectations of an ideal love and our reality. Because love is flawless, divine and yet, when someone falls in love, we suffer. Oh, how we suffer. Not because we're in love. Suffering does not arise out of love but out of what we think love is. We don't fall in love with another person, we fall in love with our reflection in them. We fall in love with what they bring out in us. We don't fall in love with them. As a matter of fact, very few people have fallen in love. No, we get attached to people. And there's a huge difference. Attachment brings fear. Why? Because we don't want our lover t...